I don’t hate you. I don’t know what I even feel about you. I’m very sad and often very angry when I think of you. You’re not a good person. You hurt me so much that I still have trouble coping with the pain you inflicted, even though it’s almost been a whole year. I try to avoid and escape you because I don’t know how to handle seeing you. There is a big part of me that still loves you for some reason. Maybe because you’ve been my first “real” boyfriend. Maybe because you were the first and last person that ever made me feel like I belonged. Maybe because we’ve spent 2 years together. Truth is – I still miss you a lot. I still feel your absence in my heart. You leaving is still something my heart can’t comprehend. After all you’ve done, all the pain, all the tears, all the fighting…there’s still a big part of me that would forgive you in a heartbeat if you apologized. When we broke up in February 2012, I was so angry at you for many good reasons. I carried that bitterness around with me like a thick shield that “protected” me from feeling any sort of happiness. I promised myself I would never fall for you again. But then, in December, you apologized. You seemed like you really meant it. All the pain I’ve felt disappeared in a second. I couldn’t help but forgive you right on the spot because you took the pain away that has burdened me for so long. Then, it all fell apart again. You’ve only made the pain worse by piling more on and on. I’m still baffled because I don’t get how you got do that to me. Even if we had many fights, even though I wasn’t always nice, I know that you’ve loved me at some point. How can you hurt somebody you love or once loved like this?
I guess dwelling on it won’t help, but still…I know I shouldn’t want to be with you or even miss you. The thing is that my missing you and having feelings with you doesn’t make a difference. I won’t come back for you and you won’t come back for me, I know that. Being with you now but be every kind of poison imaginable. I had my reasons why I wanted to break up before going to Uni. I didn’t want to be confined to my highschool boyfriend all my life. I loved you but I sometimes wondered if this, our relationship, was all I would ever have. Yes, I was happy most of the time, but we were incompatible in many respects, we fought a lot, you shared little of my beliefs…I don’t know. I guess our realtionship is something that could have only worked in highschool. I couldn’t imagine having you in my life right now. I want to travel, I want to see the world, I want to study and to have a million different experiences. I need to be on my own. If you were here, I wouldn’t want to leave your side. I didn’t want you to be all that life had to offer to me. I want a real big love that will make me both happy and healthy. All you ever did was make me ill and insecure and crazy. I don’t want to feel that way. I want to find a person that will make me feel strong and great. There is no way we could work out. I don’t trust you in the slightest. I would love to have the chance to completly start over but that’s not how it works, is it? How can I forget all the things that have happened between us? I know that good things don’t come easy, but love shouldn’t be this hard. So I’m just going to learn from you. I’m a smarter, more self-posessed and mature person since you left. And depressed. God, I’m so depressed sometimes. But I’m working through the sadness and the bitterness. Because I want to have the chance to be completly, ridiculously happy. And this time, I plan for it to be forever.